Wednesday, July 30, 2008

My Story

From a recent interview I did:

"How did you first come across the PUA community? First as a "student", and now as an instructor?"


"This is an interesting but long story. My friend had sent me a copy of some David DeAngelo material around 2004. I started reading it and was impressed that someone had actually tried to logically explain what you need to do in order to attract a woman. DeAngelo's stuff opened my eyes to the idea of "working" at becoming a "natural" but I was in a relationship at the time and didn't think too much about it.

About a year later that relationship ended and I became interested in "dating science" again, I was at a friend's house and noticed this book on his couch that looked like a bible, it was of course "The Game" and I ended up borrowing it from him and read the whole thing that night. The entire time I was reading it I was thinking "Holy shit! all that these guys are doing is acting!" I was heavily into acting and improv at the time, and I considered myself talented at it, so to hear that there were guys going around using scripted lines and picking up Britney Spears made me VERY jealous.

I went out the very next night intent on proving to myself that I could use the same lines just as good if not better than the guys in the game. The funny thing is that that night paved the path that I would lead for the next 3 years. I ended up doing very well that night, my friends thought I was posessed. On the way home I met these two girls from Paris on the bus and ended up getting their phone numbers, and as I was getting off the bus a guy came up to me and said that what I did on the bus was awesome. His name was Sasha and I told him about this book I read and we started talking, he ended up living like a block away from me, so we walked home together. After explaining to him that I was working on a system to attract women he mentioned that I reminded him of an old friend named Erik who he used to hang out with in Toronto. I jokingly asked him if Erik was a magician (since I knew Mystery's real name was Erik) and he exclaimed "Yes he is! Do you know him?" Turns out Sasha used to hang out with Mystery back before any of the events in the game happened. I explained the book to him and he was shocked, not knowing what Erik had been up to since he last saw him a couple years earlier. We agreed to meet again the next day so I could show him the book.

Me and Sasha ended up becoming good friends and we both decided that we wanted in on the whole dating science thing. For the next 4 months we went out nearly EVERY night to practice our game. We would write all our own routines and share information on bits of paper like two students studying for a test, it was a lot of fun. We started to become known as two of the better guys in the Toronto community since we'd often share advice to other guys we'd meet while we were out, and it always got them results.

So after about 5 months of this hardcore sarging Sasha gets a call from Mystery who is in town and wants to see him again. We were already out so we both head over to the bar where he's at and I get to meet him, Matador, Lovedrop, Tenmagnet as well as a couple of the other instructors at the time. I try to convince them that I would be a great addition to their company but none of them seemed that interested. Mystery did end up giving me some good advice on how to deal with a playboy model I was dating at the time though!

So, two months later I'm back at the same bar (lone-wolfing since Sasha had moved back to Europe at this point) and who should I see but Tenmagnet! One of the instructors I had met with Mystery that night. He was talking to some beautiful women and unfortunately I didn't remember him and accidentally began trying to steal the girls away from him. He just sat there and watched and listened to what I was doing, observing me. After the girls started flirting with me Tenmagnet congratulated me and told me that he worked for Mystery and that what I just did was really impressive. I remembered him from before and we ended up talking for a while and he convinced me to come to his seminar a couple weeks later. I went to the seminar and showed him my stuff in the field and he was impressed enough to invite me to help him out on his next seminar, in fact he still maintains that I was the best student he's ever had hehe. Anyways, I ended up becoming really good friends with Tenmagnet since we both lived in Toronto and he kept inviting me to help out until I finally became an instructor with the company a couple months later.

So that brings us to today! Tenmagnet and myself now work for Lovesystems, which is the reformed mystery method, and the leading seduction school in the world and Sasha is one of the top dating coaches in Europe currently working on Project: Rockstar. What a happy ending!"

Sasha's and Tenmagnet's blogs are linked under my friends tab, check them out!

6 comments:

Unknown said...

I just love your blog dude, keep em coming!

Unknown said...

I need a confirmation here my man. You're telling me that if you sit down and learn "this stuff" and get good enough at "it" you can become nearly as good as the great Cajun at picking up chicks?

Sounds sweet...

Rob Judge said...

Cajun you're the shit man

Unknown said...

its quite difficult to be as good as Cajun..

Unknown said...

Cajun, I gotta give you some heartfelt thanks.

Before this weekend, I'd never even done one cold approach. Sure, I'd read a shitload of the PUA books, but I couldn't understand how to do an approach.

They say you should hang out with guys who are good and learn from them. I don't know anyone who is good. And watching Mystery, it's hard to understand how to emulate his techniques. I'm not a full-on, gothic looking, magician, and I would be acting very weird if I tried to behave like him. Mehow has great infield footage, too, but, again, it's hard to picture me acting like that, or trying to.

Just Thursday, I saw youtube footage of you on Keys. Holy shit, Cage, it all made sense! You didn't look or act like some freaky circus performer, you were just the coolest motherfucker ever. Ever. Not some really in-your-face, look-at-me image that I would find hard to be comfortable with, you were just so fucking cool and relaxed and fun.

I hope you don't mind, but I was sitting at a bar too scared to do anything, and I just thought, "Fuck it, I'll just pretend to be Cajun", and walked straight up to some girls who seemed like they were having fun. First time ever opening cold.

They loved me. Or rather, they loved me pretending to be you. And it never made me feel fake.

You changed my life, bro. This is just the beginning. They fucking loved it.

Thanks again, and let me know if you're ever coming to Australia.

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