Friday, April 18, 2008

Advanced Body Language part 3 (OMG OMG OMG OMG!!)

Yes, that’s right, you read correctly, I have FINALLY decided to post part 3 of this article. Why such a huge delay? Well, there were a couple reasons; first of all I was thinking of only releasing the info in Vegas at le super-conference, but then ended up not even really getting into it there. Then I was thinking of only teaching part 3 to my students and 1on1s, sort of a multi-level advancement type special privilege for them, but I started feeling like a scientologist, so I have since decided to post it here, on my blog, for everyone!

Also the fact that I received about a hundred threatening emails from people that usually consisted of “WHERE THE FUCK IS PART 3, UPDATE YOUR BLOG, STOP BEING AN ASSHOLE! FUCK *Froth* *Froth* *Froth*”

My Reply to all of you is simply:

“Fuck you! I will update my blog…right after this drink!”

Unfortunately, that drink has lasted about the last 4 weeks. Whoops!

Actually the real reason behind the delay is because I’ve been so damn busy. I’ve spent the last 4 weeks pretty much traveling all over the US teaching personalized lessons to all of you! I haven’t got a laptop yet either (Savin up!) so my internet access has been sporadic. Anyways, I’m back now for 2 weeks before I start teaching like crazy again so I’ll try to pump a few good entries over the break, starting with this one!

*Early 90’s infomercial music*

BODY LANGUAGE PART 3  scrolling up

“Aura & Mystique”  Fades in

*Music fades*

Alright, so in the past 2 articles I’ve gone over how to exude sexual presence, alpha behaviour, and restraint using only your body language. Ok great, it’s been 3 months, so now you can compete with the naturals right? Damn right you can! But unfortunately for you, once you’re at this level naturals start appearing much, much more and if you’re going to stand out from even them, then you’re going to need something that only the TOP seducers throughout history have mastered…

Aura & Mystique.

So what is it?

Aura and mystique is achieved by communicating to women, through non-verbal communication, that you are a man of exceptionally rare quality.

That’s the most logical way I can explain it if I was to define it. I came across this quality while reading about the great seducers; Casanova, Don Juan, Cleopatra, and Rudolf Valentino, they all were described by their lovers as “having an aura” or “Sense of mystique”. So how did they do it? How did they communicate that quality to their lovers? Well, all of the great seducers have their own unique way of displaying this quality.

Casanova would be very clear and open with his sexual intent. He would act on this intent without reserve, and communicate to women that he was simply in love with the act of love.

Cleopatra used her ingenuity and theatrics to seduce. She would plan complex entrances and stage theatrics in order to immortalize herself in the minds of her lovers.

Rudolf Valentino was overtly sexual with his movements, especially his eyes, and seduced millions by the wanton way in which he treated the heroines in his films, something very out of the ordinary for the time.

These are just a few examples, and as you study more and more seducers you find that every one of them have their own special way of standing out from the competition of the time.

So how do we take these lessons in the history of seduction and apply it to our current day interactions?

Advanced Body Language – Aura & Mystique

1. Dress the part.

All of the above seducers dressed in a way that stood out from the competition. Some were astonishingly flashy, some quite unremarkable for today’s standards (An open shirt anyone?)

I’m not going to lie; pea cocking makes a huge difference in how you’re perceived. The trick that most people don’t get (And the main reason you often see at least 1 awkward looking guy wearing a fur hat and eyeliner in any given bar) is that pea cocking only makes you LOOK LIKE someone with mystique, it does not GIVE YOU IT. As well, how you’re dressed and how you act have to be in line with each other (congruency) otherwise you’re going to look like a fake and get blown out or even made fun of. You can’t dress like Mystery without a reason or a personality that goes along with it. Cleopatra wanted people to think she was divine, Rudolf wore tight pants and exposed chests for sex appeal. I have long hair, tight pants, dress in black and leather because I play the villain, so I make sure to dress the part. Figure out who you are and then dress in a slightly stylized version of that. If you’re confused as to *who* you are, identity is something we go over in our seminars (and 1on1s) so if you’ve taken one, you should already know.

2. Make an entrance!

This isn’t as hard as it sounds; don’t worry about staging something extravagant, often, the simpler it is, the better. Your “entrance” basically amounts to a first impression. I’ve actually started asking the women I’ve been with when it was when they realized they were attracted to me, and nearly all of them say something similar, which has given me some insight into how powerful first impressions can be. Here is an actual transcript from a recent one:

Cajun: *Above question*
Rachel: Oh right away.
Cajun: Really? I’m not *that* attractive.
Rachel: No no, it wasn’t that, it was just like you were this funny guy who didn’t give a shit, and I remember looking at you and thinking “He’s a *bad* one!” and then as soon as I thought that, you looked at me…
Cajun: Awwww
Rachel: Haha shut up! Actually, the way you looked at me was pretty intense too.
Cajun: Intense?
Rachel: Most guys just smile, or get nervous and look away when I notice them, you locked eyes with me and smirked like you knew that I was thinking dirty thoughts about you or something, even though I wasn’t!
Cajun: Yes you were, don’t lie.
Rachel: I wasn’t! But after you did that it’s all I could think about! That’s why I introduced myself a little later, I *had* to meet you.

The above was a girl I met at a party. And my “entrance”, as you can see, was simply a look. My clothes and body language got her attention, but it was the “look” that made the impression on her. Here’s another transcript:

Cajun: *same question*
Isabelle: When you walked up to me.
Cajun: It was a sexy walk?
Isabelle: No, I just noticed you in the bar and you looked over at me and smirked, I thought “Ehh..he’s ok looking” but then you furrowed your eyes like you knew what I was thinking and without looking away you slowly walked over to me and said something really sexy, guys NEVER do that.
Cajun: Do you remember what I said?
Isabelle: Something like “You can’t look at me like that” but it wasn’t what you said, you gave off this confidence, like I remember feeling that even if I wanted to reject you it wouldn’t even have worked, it was weird, but sexy weird. When you left, my friends were like “Who the fuck was THAT guy?” You made a pretty good impression.

The way that I opened this woman was the same way I open every woman that looks at me in a bar. Goes like this:

Girl looks at me
I look at her, HOLD eye contact.
If she holds for more than 2-3 seconds I walk over slowly without looking away.
I get in close and in the most seductive voice I can muster I say “You can’t look at me like that and not say anything”

One of the most important elements here is the *way* that you look at the women. This is hard to explain in text, and I’d post a picture of the look but it wouldn’t help too much because it’s not really the look itself that’s important, but the message the look gives. Essentially you should be looking at them like “I get a funny joke that you don’t get”. That’s the easiest way I can explain it. Couple that with a few glances at their lips and some flirty kino and you have yourself a recipe for a sexy first impression.

3. Don’t give a shit.

Not giving a shit is one of the easiest ways to stand out from nearly every other guy that has approached your sets in the past. The reason is simple; most guys care what women think of them. This is actually a pretty unattractive trait, I don’t think women would admit it, but it is. It says a bunch of negative things which you don’t really need to know other than “they’re bad”. I’m assuming all of you care what women think of you when you approach, that’s ok, you can’t really just turn that off, the trick is to convince the women that you don’t give a shit, not yourself, at least initially. So how do you do it?

- SMILE: Not one of those “Look how happy I am!” grins, keep it cool, it should be a “I know exactly what I’m doing, and you can’t rattle me” type of grin. As well, whenever you don’t know what to say, just smile and look at them like you get something they don’t get. I mentioned this earlier and it’s probably one of the most powerful looks you can give. Practice it until you get it right, it’s a little different for everyone.

- SLOW DOWN: Don’t talk so fast, and try to pause for no reason often, followed by one of those smiles you’ve been practicing. If they ask you a question look at them and smile for a second or two before responding, as if they just asked a dirty question.

- LOOK COMFORTABLE: This pretty much comes down to locking in. Think about where you want to be locked in as you’re approaching the sets. Every good bar is set up in a way that there should always be something to lean on or sit on, so there are no excuses. I have actually leaned on PEOPLE in the past when there was nothing to lean on.

And the last most important rule for aura & mystique

4. Have complete confidence in your mastery of social interactions.

You should seem like someone who could never be uncomfortable, no matter what the situation. If something happens and you don’t know what to say just look comfortable and smile or make fun of the fact that its awkward and blame it on them. Always appear as if you’re one step ahead of everyone., be James Bond.

Alright guys, I’ll try to get Vegas parts 2 & 3 up before the end of next week, so stay tuned!


Brian said...

This is money:

If they ask you a question look at them and smile for a second or two before responding, as if they just asked a dirty question.

Honey Badger said...

The previous two parts naturally lead, with field practice, to figuring out this third part. At least in my own experience.
In any case, the suspense is over. Amazing read! Thanks for sharing.

Maximo said...

Thanks, Cajun, for this post. For me, you are the best. ^_^

Big Papa said...
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Big Papa said...

You know this kid's got game, there isn't a doubt about that. How real is it to believe we can wke up from the matrix, how do we know he isn't one of these "naturals" just feeding off us? The filtered out/broken down trial and error PUA tactics are great, but before I subscribe to "Cajun" I want to hear his story. Where did you come from? Who was it that opened your eyes? Please Cajun, show us this foundation our trust resides on, is not one of popsicle sticks and Elmers....

Mr Hahn said...

Hey Cajun, you totally have to post more often.

Seriously, Im goin to have to start a puppy holocaust or somethin if u keep takin soo fuckin long. Youre killing me.

no but for real, Your blog is awesome. Intersting and amusing at the same time. Thanks man, keep em comin.


Philippe-A. said...

You're fucking awesome. I had seen your performance on Keys, but only the second set. Just stumbled upon it, had no clue you called yourself a pro.

The great enlightenment, for me, was working as a bartender in a trendy yet humble and sort of intellectual cocktail bar in Montreal. 75% of our clients were amazing looking girls. That's where i first "saw the matrix". but I must admit that you take this to a whole other lever.

Anyways, you're cool, if you're ever around in Montreal, drop me a line, I'll take you around. You KNOW it's the city with the most beautiful girls, right?

Alex Weber said...

Hey Cajun,

Thanks for finishing this article sereies! I just reviewed the last two and this one, and they're money.

When you look at girls for the first time, are you using a sexual state, as in Gunwitch Method?

Anyone who's into this stuff should also check out Pickup Podcast Episode 44: Advanced Toolbox - Body Language

Thanks again!

AFDesi said...

Great post. But, um, for your lazy, new readers out there, mind linking to the first two parts? Thanks.

arbz said...

Shits so cashmoney$$xxlul

vinicius said...

I think Cajun's style is the most natural style I came accross so far. It's hard to find people that can describe things correctly like he does.

Pokadots said...

Interesting style of 'moves' you seem to have required, i've been reading back over many of your blogs and its impressive just how much detail you've actually gone into all this. Although it makes me wonder if all the subject's you try out these 'moves' on seem already connected, after all being at a party or a club is a lot different than walking into a bar early evening and picking out a single figure and being able to work your advice? Question- How can Rock and Roll be the key to ALL women? From your blogs you make it sound like every female is exactly the same?

Or perhaps i just misinterpret how your guidelines on your 'moves' actually work?

(All have been Interesting articles to read.... )

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Roshan said...

Just got it, awesome. Nice work..